Coping With Anger In Children- Anger Management For Teens|Kids|Children

Coping with anger in children can be easy if we learn tips on anger management for teens|kids|children. The causes for the anger in children can be many such as parental neglect (perceived or real), malnutrition, childhood depression, low self esteem, fear of being deserted and other childhood related anxieties. The first thing you should do is to determine the real cause of the anger in children without being overwhelmed by the situation you are in. Initially you feel hopeless. It is shocking at first to realize that the beloved child of yours can be capable of hurting you with angry outbursts. Try to find the cause and once it is known, it is easy to take remedial measures.

When your child is angry do not lose your cool. Find out what bothers the child and try to eliminate the cause if it is reasonable. Teach the child that anger is a natural but negative emotion which needs to be managed since it impairs the sense of judgment that may land us in trouble. Teach the children that anger affects a person physically as well as mentally. When a person is angry, the blood pressure rises, face contorts making it ugly, speech becomes incoherent, the body starts to tremble and any decision taken at this stage may not be the right one as the mind also is agitated.

Home is the place where the child grows and the parents should strive to create the right home atmosphere for the childís physical and emotional development. Arguments or fights between parents in front of children should be avoided at all costs because it creates a sense of insecurity in the minds of children affecting their emotional development. It should be remembered that children consider their parents as role models to emulate. So good parent behavior is important to set an example especially on how to manage anger in the right manner.

It is not enough to show unconditional love toward children but also make the children understand that they are loved. Some of childrenís behavior problems arise from the misconception that they are not being loved by their parents. If the children feel that they are not loved or feel unwanted, it is the sure recipe for child rebellion. Most of the parents take their children for granted and feel that providing for food, clothing and shelter is enough to make the child feel their love. Nothing can be further from the truth.

Children value their parentís closeness to them more than anything else. Parents should try to create the bond of closeness by spending time with the children so that they feel connected. Most of child misbehavior is due the feeling rightly or wrongly that they are unconnected and so they feel that the parents lose the right to question or correct them. Studies show that most of the juvenile delinquents feel unconnected and come from dysfunctional families.

Whatever be the cause, parents should not resort to spanking as this hurts the pride of the child. Parents should not forget the fact that their children are also individuals with matching egos. When the ego is hurt, it affects the emotional well being of the child and consequently the spanking parent loses the respect of the child which lays foundation for further misbehavior. Physical abuse creates more problems than solves and it can not replace the right anger management techniques based on love and affection.

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